After finishing my devotion this morning, I was left in a state of confusion. After thinking about my devotion and what it said. I started to get so irritated. I sometimes get confused and mad about what Christians say and do, and what they tell other people is right and wrong. For example, my devotion said that it is wrong to date and to save yourself for the person you are going to marry. Well excuse me? How are you going to find out your "husband" is the person you want to marry without dating him? And HOW do you know that it's ok to date "this guy" because that person is going to be your future husband. HOW DO YOU KNOW? Gah sometimes Christians really irritate me. I mean, I understand saving yourself for your husband sexually. And waiting for the marriage bed, but really? Dating? Common. Had I not dated all those losers in middle school and in high school I would have never known that Adam would be the perfect guy for me and make the perfect husband. I would have never known that there is nothing better than Adam and would have wondered the rest of my married life if I could have done better. I just don't get it. It's like saying the past 4 years of my life have been in sin because we are not getting instantly married. The past 4 years of my life have been spent getting to know and growing to love this man that will one day be my future husband. I have learned how to get along and how to sacrifice. How to fight and how to make important decisions together. I would have never learned any of that without spending so much time with this one man.
And I am tired of all these crap books being put out like "I Kissed Dating Goodbye". So you kissed dating goodbye, then what? You're ok with dating multiple girls at one time and sleeping around? Yeah right. All these books are so stupid. There is really no way to find out who you should be with in your future without reaching out and dating people. No way. You are not a mind reader, and even if you knew that persons thoughts you wouldn't know their reactions to certain situations. Or how they treat you around friends and family. I mean... Really. So irritated with some of the Christian population right now. It's a wonder why people push Christianity away for some of the insane, bizarre rules they create.
Look at the bigger picture people. It's about YOUR heart and YOUR relationship with God. If dating someone takes away from that, then it is wrong. But if dating someone encourages that, then it is right and good.
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You are exactly right Hannah! Dating is very important and most Christians push this concept away. I think it is so important to date. We have been with our boyfriends for over 4 years now and I have learned soooo much about Christian in the years and so much about myself! I believe that God has a hand in our relationships and that christian and Adam are the ones we are suppose to marry. Don't let your devotional get you down. I understand completely what you are saying because as christians we are suppose to "act" a certain way. I believe that your relationship is between you , your bf and God. Don't let any one tell you that you are wrong because you aren't! We learn something different every day and especially with our bfs ... I am glad you posted this because it does make you think about how hypocritical some Christians can be ... As long as you are right with God nothing else matters! Love you girl :-)
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